{"id":11960,"date":"2023-05-05T18:43:05","date_gmt":"2023-05-05T18:43:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/tolagbe.com\/upgrade\/?p=11960"},"modified":"2023-05-09T11:55:31","modified_gmt":"2023-05-09T11:55:31","slug":"de-escalation-phrases-for-defusing-meltdowns","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/tolagbe.com\/upgrade\/2023\/05\/05\/de-escalation-phrases-for-defusing-meltdowns\/","title":{"rendered":"De-Escalation Phrases for Defusing Meltdowns"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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Sometimes, when children become extremely overwhelmed or they\u2019re experiencing sensory overload, they have a meltdown where they lose control over their behaviours.<\/span><\/p>

As a parent, these situations can be stressful for everyone involved.<\/span><\/p>

Acknowledging your child\u2019s feelings shows that you have listened to them, and can be crucial when defusing a situation; for example, \u2018It must be really difficult for you … thank you for letting me know\u2019.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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Use words and phrases that de-escalate, such as:<\/span><\/p>

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    Tell the child what you want them to do rather than what you do not want them to do; for example, \u2018I want you to sit down\u2019 rather than \u2018Stop arguing with me\u2019.<\/span><\/p>

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    Sometimes, no matter how carefully and skillfully you try to de-escalate a situation, it may still reach a crisis point. After any outburst or incident, always make time to debrief, repair and rebuild, or the relationship will flounder and continue to deteriorate. Problem-solve the situation and teach new behaviours where needed. Remember resolving conflicts is one of the most important skills to model.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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